Amy Chua’s recentÂ articleÂ on theÂ Wall Street Journal, originally an excerpt from her newest book about raising her two children the “Tiger Mother” way, has generated a lot of controversy. Some have called her a cruel monster, some have commended her on how fine her children turned out, andÂ JamieÂ has called her a babe. She claims that the Asian style of parenting gives the child a different sense of self-esteem from Western-style parenting; while the latter lavishes children with praises that make them feel good about themselves, the Asian style only praises them when they do something well, which, according to Chua, leads to a fuller exploration of the child’s potentials and a bigger sense of self-esteem.
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This, to a lot of us, does not justify calling your child “garbage”. However, many people do grow up under this style of parenting (myself included), and most of us turn out fine (and in my case, extra fine. Heyoo!). Of course, the terms “Asian” and “Western” are problematic in themselves; not everyone conforms to this stereotype, and many actively resist such labels. Given that, what are your thoughts on this? Is “tough love” a sage decision made for the child by the better-knowing adult, or is it a form of confiscation of the child’s liberties? Feel free to comment below!
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